The Past Few Weeks – The Greatest Lesson

The ‘Past Few Weeks’ saga came to an abrupt end. You see, there is this problem, called time, so many of the things that I wanted to write about did not actually make it up here. Fine. But this one is a must.

There comes a certain time in everyone’s life (I guess) when reality dawns, and when we finally realise something so..well…DUH. This was just one thing, which I feel is the cause of all disappointment, cause of all problems, cause of all fights, cause of all hatred and well, everything else. This ’cause’, I feel, is that we expect too much from people. Atleast I do, and as a matter of fact, quite frankly and unhaughtily, I should rephrase that too some of us expect too much from people. How many times have we heard people complaining ‘he should have done that’ or ‘why is he late?’. Okay, yes expectations are required, otherwise this world would not function. Everybody expects, but the people who really suffer are who ‘expect too much’. And I am one of them. It’s not bad, actaully the intentions are all good, but it is harmful. Because when someone doesn’t meet your expectations, you get disappointed, irritated, stressed and depressed. There is no need for that.

Be it your best friends, your girlfriend, your peers, your elders – everyone disappoints. It is not like they mean to, but then we get so troubled and demanding about everything, it just happens. The worst scenario is even when you talk to these people – and they still don’t get it. It’s so frustrating. You start thinking and speculating and wondering, and then the worst bit – you start to blame yourself. You don’t feel like talking, you don’t feel like doing anything for anyone, but then again you care. So you get even more perplexed, you feel like hitting your head against the wall, and then you try to do something about it instead – so you try to pick up the phone and call – But then again, you check yourself. STOP. No. How much can you say? That’s when it hits you – stop it. Stop expecting so much. Continue to do what you want to, continue to try to meet other people’s expectations, (not that it always happens – but I have realised it so I need to practice it as much as I can) continue caring and for once, putting other people before you – but without too many expectations.

I have somewhat started doing that and the feeling is awesome. If you haven’t already realised, the most amount of joy is felt by us when we don’t expect something and we get it. WOW! Think about it, I really don’t know what you think – but to me, this holds a lot of reverence. As my Elvis puts it, reflect.

The past few weeks have taught me just that. It has come to me like a plate of food comes onto a wife-betrayer’s face. But then again we need to question: How much do we expect from ourselves? Because we cannot not expect anything from ourselves, then we would end up no where. Again, reflect.